Well that’s something which is never gonna please me. But wait, you didn’t ask me what’s never gonna please me? Being a girl? Or being a girl who’s being left out and who’s being the second choice i.e the ”BACKUP” friend when it comes to her family and friends in comparison to her brother or a guy friend?
I’d love to talk about it; the Misogynistic concept
When I was just 16 years old, I unknowingly became a female preacher. I had a debate with my father for something that just bloomed my mind when he reacted to it. You guys wont imagine it somehow made me angry and i felt downhearted 😥
It started like this: ”daughter, I think you should learn how to cook and how to do dishes and pots so that you can help your mom plus kitchen is a place where women are meant to be”
I remember at that spur of the moment, I don’t wanna mess up because I had no one to support me in this matter but I promised to myself that no matter what I’m going to raise my voice against that. This is something I’d love to say that: A women’s place is wherever she wants to be so yeah help em’ out even in the kitchen because that’s where you belong too ❤
So, believe me or not, its in our cultures and traditions that women should not compete with men but is that a true sense of what we should go for? It takes an enormous amount of willful denial-ism not to see that women are free-minded and creative beings just as much as men are. I think one thing that will help is undoing the ties that adhere people falsely, the false sense of moral obligation which is keeping women with abusers and making men reluctant to try to educate, and when I say this I mean to really educate young men not to participate in an obtain rape culture.
But the best part is, its becoming really obvious that women aren’t inferior to men at least in masculine-coded pursuits. I’ve heard people saying that she’s a girl so she is going to be a doctor or a teacher but not a pilot or an engineer… Like why? Who are you to take decisions for her life, its her life and I think we should give that complete freedom to her so that she can choose whatever she wants JUST LIKE HER BROTHER..
When we talk about power relations- that’s something which seems to be different challenge altogether so umm yeahh when people are attached to positions they believe are their birthright, they get huge amounts of repercussion. Its when men starts thinking that women are taking opportunities and privileges away from em’ that’s where they think women are challenging male dominance which isn’t the fact and they get backlash. But we’ve to deal with that right? Women cannot — and should not — internalize patriarchal values and give and give and give until women are nothing.
We need to change that misogynistic mindsets and that’s how when women can surpass them without having wronged them.
In the end I’d like to say instead of deflecting start defending guys 🙂